Lighten Up: You Are Only Twenty-Something

Lighten Up: You Are Only Twenty-Something
At 23, JK Rowling was broke, Tina Fey was working at the YMCA, Oprah had just been fired as a new reporter, and Walt Disney had just filed for bankruptcy. Its going to be ok.
— Unknown

20-something......the age range of pure and utter confusion. Speaking on my own experience, being 22 (23 August 23, 2017 HANNNNN), I feel like I am too old to be struggling. I graduated college, I am working on my masters and I am working in my field but still seem to be struggling. 

Honestly, for a while I racked my brains because it seemed as if I was completely behind my peers. At the tender age of 22, my peers were either married, had a kid(s) or doing something that seemed to be fun. I, on the other hand is stuck paying rent, trying to operate a non profit and try and not suffer from the struggle of only having enough to live check to check. So of course I went and got some advice on being 20:

1.) Mistakes are just learning opportunities- Making a mistake is not the end of the world, you are human and were designed to make mistakes in order to learn from.

2.) Your journey should not be compared to someone else- Don't compare journeys, you don't know what they did or had to do to get where they are. You are unique and so is your journey.

3.) Learn from the criticism- Constructive criticism is essential for the development of any person.

4.) Embarrass your weaknesses- I hate to look at weaknesses as a bad thing, because how I look at it, you may have a weakness in one area, and you make up for that in another area.

5.) Your past is the past- You are not your past, whether that be the place where you come from, the addiction you use to struggle have progressed, livelife in the now and als\\think about your future.

6.) Complaining is not an option- Instead of complaining do something about it!!!!

7.) Neither are excuses- Excuses are tools of the weak and incompetent used to build monuments of nothingness

8.) Know your "bottom line"- Somethings in your life are non-negotiable (i.e. your standards), and you should stand by them at all cost. 

9.) Start Listening- Take advice from someone who has been in your shoes. 

10.) Everyone has a gift/talent- Stop comparing your journey to others. You are special and you were placed on this earth for a reason, find your purpose, your gift, your talent and contribute what you have to bettering the world. 

11.) Your network is your net worth- In the words of one of my favorite speakers, Les Miles, "you hang around losers, eventually you will be a loser."


What are some tips you have for a twenty something year old?


Until Next Time



Razhede Highsmith